How to cut people from your invite list
Struggling to cut people from your wedding invite? It can be a tricky task, but it doesn't have to be stressful. With my practical tips and your savvy decision-making, you'll navigate this challenge without a hitch!
Tip 1: Budget & venue reality check
How many guests can you realistically afford? Map out all the guest costs vs. your allocated budget – it's time to dust off those math skills! What's the max headcount before the dance floor feels like a mosh pit? Scope out the venue map – make sure there's plenty of room for everyone to sit, stand, and bust out their favorite dance moves. This will help you decide which friends and family can join you on your big day without maxing out your funds and venue capacity. And don't forget, you still need to set aside funds for your epic honeymoon!
Tip 2: Create an A-list
Who couldn’t you imagine not being at your wedding? Your big day wouldn’t be the same if you didn’t have them by your side. Make an A-list of all the A-listers – your besties, immediate or chosen fam, or maybe your work crew! These are your VIPs for the unforgettable celebration of the year – your wedding day. You definitely want to look back at your wedding and remember everyone’s faces – the people who were truly there for you in that once-in-a-lifetime moment.
Tip 3: The 6-month rule
Have you seen or spoken to them in the last 6 months? If not, perhaps consider not inviting them. Say goodbye to distant cousins, relatives, and old school friends. If you need to spend a minute or so figuring out when you last saw them, I’d say it's safe to skip the invite. Your special day is all about celebrating your love story and the awesome future ahead. It might be time to let go of those old acquaintances and stop stressing about family you only see at funerals.
Tip 4: Plus-one hard stance
Not married? Not in a serious relationship? Only met their partner like 3 months ago? Sorry, no plus-one. If you crack that door open, it will be hard to close it. It's best to be fair and consistent with all guests – take a hard stance on plus-ones. And besides, you’re not a dating service – it’s just one day for them to fly solo. One idea would be to seat all the solo guests together, as they’re all in the same boat. Let them mingle and make new, fun connections.
Tip 5: Didn’t make the cut conversation
If you do need to have a conversation with family, friends, or acquaintances about why they didn’t make the cut to receive an invite, being upfront and honest is the best way to go. You could say something like, "We had to make some tough decisions," or, "Our venue has a strict headcount." No one can get upset with you if you have budget constraints that limit your guest list. And if they do get upset, ask yourself: do you really need this person in your life? Sounds like drama you don’t need.
This is your special day to celebrate your love story, relationship, and the amazing future you are building together. You want the people that matter most – your inner circle – to witness your ‘I do’s’ and can’t wait to celebrate your ‘happily ever after.’
